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PhD or NOT????

PhD or Not —–That has been the looming question for me over the last six months. I have continued writing and trying to keep my head around the literature review, research design and working with my chair.  But, do I really need to have a PhD any more?  I am retired and working in my studio and loving every minute that I am there creating.  I’m 57 years old and I don’t think that I will ever go back to higher education.

I would love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this topic.  It has been interesting as my college friends say – ABSOLUTELY FINISH and my other friends say DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

What do I do………..

 

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Celebrating Sibling Day!

Today is sibling day!  Not quite sure where this “DAY” of celebration came from. But, it gives us time to think about our brothers and/or sisters hopefully in a loving way and be happy they are in our lives.

Doing some research I found that Claudia Evart created the day and also the Siblings Day Foundation. Evart lost her siblings very early in life from two separate accidents. Forty-nine governors have acknowledged the holiday. President George W. Bush recognized the day in 2008.  But, it takes much more to become an actual holiday.

Now that we have the historical out of the way, what about your siblings?  How is your relationship with them? Was it better when you were younger or has it gotten better as both of you have grown older? Have there been events in your life that changed your relationship? If you have elderly parents, has this changed your relationship with your siblings?

If your like me you have had a roller coaster relationship with your sibling.  I am 3 1/2 years older than my brothers.  He was never in school with me and when he was in high school I was married (young) and we weren’t real close. When I was in high school he was always that pesty brother who was in the way with friends and boyfriends. Ha Ha Ha! My brother was really different then me too.  He struggled in school and everything came easy for me.  He was the wild child and I was the typical first child who did everything she was suppose to.

Over the years as we both have our own families and lost our mother we have grown closer, not caring about the differences, caring that we are family and that is the most important.  We have had our tiffs – actually more between things my husband has done, but, we all grow and it isn’t worth holding any grudges.

I am sure many of you were challenged with divorces in your family and then parents remarrying.  How did this affect your relationships with your siblings?  I know that each one of us have our stories……what is yours?  Share in the comments and give a tribute to your siblings today.

The picture above is me and my brother.  We had our first vacation together since we were kids still at home. It was actually a lot of fun and we didn’t kill each other.

HAPPY SIBLING DAY!

 

 

 

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Regenerated – REQUIRED

Two weeks in paradise every February is what this girl needs.  Sun, water, no alarms, a6398B78D-C8AC-4CBD-AD02-7887E2F12619nd no planning! Just time for my brain to rest and explore shapes, color and nature.

Now it’s studio and design time, which there is never enough, between my granddaughter and family requests my life is pretty busy.  I thought I would have so much time after retiring.  Little did I know that my daughter would loose her job and need mom more than ever. How do I balance everything?  I have so much that I want to do on my blog and designing, But, I can’t resist getting on the floor with Ava. She is growing so fast. Yesterday was her 6 month birthday. REALLY!

So…..visit my Facebook page and Etsy page in the next few weeks to see new items.   Hopefully, after I have completed listing items in my new Amazon Handmade page I can start doing some tutorials for watercolor as many of you have been asking for.

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The Little Joys

This week was a bit challenging as my daughter was reorged out of her position after 12 years at a large international corporation. For the second time this year the company has eliminated hundreds of jobs in the name of reorganization while their job postings continue to increase.  Hiring new lower paying employees you ask?  What do you think?  I have owned a number of manufacturing companies and watched the equity firms come in, buy up thriving companies, only to close them because they aren’t profitable “enough” for their stockholders.

But, then I hold my granddaughter and think “SO WHAT!” We all have our health and families close to us.  My husband and I came out better on the other side of our diversities and my daughter and her husband will too.  She will get to spend some valuable time with her sweet little girl and research what she wants to do with this next stage of her adult life.

What diversities have you gone through? Have you had change in careers?  I think we all have a couple times.  Where our parents often worked for a company for 30-40 years, now our kids are being told to expect 4-6 job changes in their life time.  Thinking about everything with the half full mentality…..lives sure don’t get boring do they!

So……this week I am holding my little Ava a little closer and giving more hugs to my daughter……you do the same.

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Goal setting for 2018 together!

Yep….goals are important to me and they should be for you.  No matter, if you are 18 or 80 you shouldn’t stop making goals. The reason for those goals are personal to each of us and important to making a difference in our lives and being part of advancing quality of life for ourselves and those around us.

We all have set goals using the SMART method and probably many other formats.  This year I decided to do something a little different. Hopefully, you are going to join me in this journey as we work together with the HARD method for goal setting and accomplishing in 2018. Visit Forbes article for more information. The article looks at goals on a professional career oriented level. If you are in your golden years that isn’t that important.  But, your life goals are very important.  How do you spend your days, motivate yourself, leave your legacy?  Yes, this goal setting is for you on a personal level.

For 2018 I am going to set my goals for both personal and professional. I just celebrated my 57th birthday and have so much to do. Don’t you feel the same way? Of course you do! You want to make a difference in your family’s lives, in your spiritual life, and in your professional or personal life.  But, if you don’t set goals you will be getting up each morning saying “What is on my to do list today? Do I have a purpose?” That is not life…..that is EXISTING!

So, join with me in setting your goals for 2018 using the HARD method as outlined in the Forbes article. Don’t overdo things.  Just set a couple goals for the personal, professional, spiritual, and/or the legacy side of your life this year. You may have other area.  Forbes article included the following in their article that will be very helpful as we move forward in developing and writing our plans out:

Question #1: Animated. “Think about where you want your career to be, and describe to me exactly what you’re doing (what kind of work you’re doing, who you’re working with, what your days look like, etc.) one year, three years, and five years from now.”

Question #2: Heartfelt. “Describe at least three reasons why you want this goal (note: the reasons can be intrinsic, personal, and/or extrinsic).”

Question #3: Difficult. “What are the three to five most important skills you’ll need to develop to achieve this goal? How will you develop those skills?”

Question #4: Required. “What do you need to have accomplished by the end of the next six months to keep on track toward achieving this goal? What about by the end of the next 90 days? The next 30 days? What’s one thing you can accomplish today?” (M. Murphy, 2017, Forbes)

You will immediately see that the HARD questions have been listed out of order.  There is a reason…..

Let’s get to work together today.  Get that planner and note pad out and start planning.  Life is to short not to have a plan!

 

 

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Join 2018’s Planning & Activities

Today is the start of 2018’s journey of life, retirement, business development, and most importantly being a gram! Take this journey with me and share as I share with you how my life as an administrator in higher education evolves.  Share the joys and struggles of being on the back end of 50, having an aging parent, and wanting to be all my mother was and more as a grandmother.

Part of this journey will also include trying hard to develop a home-based business, complete my PhD, and being a mother, wife and grandmother. And…also important is the passion of allow art and design a major part of this journey. Yes……….we have a lot of work to do this year don’t we?

Well…….let’s get started today…..before the NEW YEAR!

I included the picture of me standing on a Florida gulf beach so we can close our eyes, feel the waves moving back and forth and our toes being covered by sand. Demonstrating that if we do not keep moving we will be covered up and stuck in the sand of life.  We don’t have time to waste this gift of life given to us.

So….for our first step of filling in our planners for 2018. Let’s make a list of what is important to us…..everything…..big and little!  Include vacations, birthdays….anything and everything you deem as important for your year to be a success.

Visit back here on New Year’s Day to get your next instructions!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

 

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Retiring to Be a ‘GRAM’

Yesterday was so fulfilling for me as my daughter made her first outing after delivering her first child, my first granddaughter! I was blessed to be able to watch Ava. But, as any grandparent probably know, I had to earn my priviledges through trust, changing diapers, burping, giving bottles, and just simply being there for my daughter.

Eleven months ago one of my three reasons for retiring was to hopefully be available to be a major part of my grandchild’s life. My children were raise with my mother and grandmother (Bushia) available and wanting to spend time with them. They shared our Polish heritage and taught them how to cook, crochet, a little farming and important values. You will find, if you follow me, that my children and family are the most important thing to me. My family, being there, allowed me to be active in co-founding our first business with my husband Craig (more to follow on this in a later post). Now, it is my turn to be available for my daughter and make it

11159515_10152994813359542_2480482301135098372_nmentally easier for her to continue in her career and for me to share with my grandchildren.

It is so interesting how so many memories of when my kids were babies flow back as I watch Ava grow.  All the challenges and struggles that I remember, I can share with my daughter.  But, as many of the grandparents reading this know, you have to be very careful in sharing. My daughter is a total Type A personality, not sure where she got that (chuckle). However, thankfully we have a very close, open relationship.

Kara will be returning to work after the first of the year.  I have offered to be available to watch our little one a couple days a week and be there when she is sick or needs more time. One challenge for me has been to be there and bite my tongue at times.  It has also be a bit of a challenge to manage time with creating in the studio, completing my dissertation and wanting to be there for my daughter.  But………I would have it no other way!

So…..what advice do you have for me?  Please leave comments and share.

(Photo above is a 4-generation photo taken many years ago at a mother-daughter church banquet. In front is Bushia and my mom, who suffered from multiple-sclerosis.)