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Celebrating Sibling Day!

Today is sibling day!  Not quite sure where this “DAY” of celebration came from. But, it gives us time to think about our brothers and/or sisters hopefully in a loving way and be happy they are in our lives.

Doing some research I found that Claudia Evart created the day and also the Siblings Day Foundation. Evart lost her siblings very early in life from two separate accidents. Forty-nine governors have acknowledged the holiday. President George W. Bush recognized the day in 2008.  But, it takes much more to become an actual holiday.

Now that we have the historical out of the way, what about your siblings?  How is your relationship with them? Was it better when you were younger or has it gotten better as both of you have grown older? Have there been events in your life that changed your relationship? If you have elderly parents, has this changed your relationship with your siblings?

If your like me you have had a roller coaster relationship with your sibling.  I am 3 1/2 years older than my brothers.  He was never in school with me and when he was in high school I was married (young) and we weren’t real close. When I was in high school he was always that pesty brother who was in the way with friends and boyfriends. Ha Ha Ha! My brother was really different then me too.  He struggled in school and everything came easy for me.  He was the wild child and I was the typical first child who did everything she was suppose to.

Over the years as we both have our own families and lost our mother we have grown closer, not caring about the differences, caring that we are family and that is the most important.  We have had our tiffs – actually more between things my husband has done, but, we all grow and it isn’t worth holding any grudges.

I am sure many of you were challenged with divorces in your family and then parents remarrying.  How did this affect your relationships with your siblings?  I know that each one of us have our stories……what is yours?  Share in the comments and give a tribute to your siblings today.

The picture above is me and my brother.  We had our first vacation together since we were kids still at home. It was actually a lot of fun and we didn’t kill each other.

HAPPY SIBLING DAY!

 

 

 

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Goal setting for 2018 together!

Yep….goals are important to me and they should be for you.  No matter, if you are 18 or 80 you shouldn’t stop making goals. The reason for those goals are personal to each of us and important to making a difference in our lives and being part of advancing quality of life for ourselves and those around us.

We all have set goals using the SMART method and probably many other formats.  This year I decided to do something a little different. Hopefully, you are going to join me in this journey as we work together with the HARD method for goal setting and accomplishing in 2018. Visit Forbes article for more information. The article looks at goals on a professional career oriented level. If you are in your golden years that isn’t that important.  But, your life goals are very important.  How do you spend your days, motivate yourself, leave your legacy?  Yes, this goal setting is for you on a personal level.

For 2018 I am going to set my goals for both personal and professional. I just celebrated my 57th birthday and have so much to do. Don’t you feel the same way? Of course you do! You want to make a difference in your family’s lives, in your spiritual life, and in your professional or personal life.  But, if you don’t set goals you will be getting up each morning saying “What is on my to do list today? Do I have a purpose?” That is not life…..that is EXISTING!

So, join with me in setting your goals for 2018 using the HARD method as outlined in the Forbes article. Don’t overdo things.  Just set a couple goals for the personal, professional, spiritual, and/or the legacy side of your life this year. You may have other area.  Forbes article included the following in their article that will be very helpful as we move forward in developing and writing our plans out:

Question #1: Animated. “Think about where you want your career to be, and describe to me exactly what you’re doing (what kind of work you’re doing, who you’re working with, what your days look like, etc.) one year, three years, and five years from now.”

Question #2: Heartfelt. “Describe at least three reasons why you want this goal (note: the reasons can be intrinsic, personal, and/or extrinsic).”

Question #3: Difficult. “What are the three to five most important skills you’ll need to develop to achieve this goal? How will you develop those skills?”

Question #4: Required. “What do you need to have accomplished by the end of the next six months to keep on track toward achieving this goal? What about by the end of the next 90 days? The next 30 days? What’s one thing you can accomplish today?” (M. Murphy, 2017, Forbes)

You will immediately see that the HARD questions have been listed out of order.  There is a reason…..

Let’s get to work together today.  Get that planner and note pad out and start planning.  Life is to short not to have a plan!